Let’s Talk About How to Break the Cycle
Negative self-talk has a way of creeping in and convincing us that we’re not good enough. Whether it’s subtle or constant, it can drain your confidence and keep you from showing up fully in your life. In this post, we’ll walk through actionable steps to stop negative self-talk and build a healthier, more encouraging mindset.
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- 1. Start Noticing the Voice: The first step in changing any pattern is awareness. Pay attention to the way you speak to yourself throughout the day. If you wouldn’t say it to someone you love, don’t say it to yourself.
| Tip: Keep a note in your phone or journal where you jot down common negative phrases you catch. Awareness is the first step to rewriting them.
- 2. Challenge the Thought: When you catch a negative thought, ask yourself the following- This helps you stop spiraling and keeps you grounded in reality, not your insecurities.
- Is this actually true?
- What would I tell a friend if they said this about themselves?
- What’s a more balanced or kind way I can reframe this?
3. Replace It with Truth: Instead of saying, “I’m a failure,” try “I’m learning, and I’ve made it through hard things before.” It doesn’t have to be overly positive- just true and supportive.
- 4. Talk to Yourself Like Someone You Love: Treat yourself like someone worth protecting and encouraging. You’re not weak for struggling. You’re human.
| Try this: Write a short love letter to yourself when you’re having a rough day. It feels awkward at first- but overtime, it can rewire how you speak to yourself in moments in pain.
- 5. Build an Uplifting Environment: Your surroundings can influence your thoughts. Follow accounts that motivate you. Save quotes that bring you peace. Spend time with people who remind you of your worth. You don’t have to do this alone, and you don’t have to stay stuck in a cycle that drains you.
Final Thoughts
The way you speak to yourself matters. Even one kind thought a day can begin to change your inner world. Give yourself the same compassion you so freely give to others- you deserve it.